Post partum Blues- It's definetly real!!
Dear Friends,
Welcome to my blog, and hope you are having a great day!!
Motherhood is fascinating, exciting, enjoyable and lovable, etc. is all I have heard from my friends and family , when I was expecting. No one ever prepares you for sleep deprivation, trauma, body image issues, self doubt and the tiresome feeling along with constant peer pressure that follows soon after delivery.
My journey was a mix of happy moments, some swollen eyes, leaky breasts, cute baby smiles, diaper woes, grandma underwear, glowing skin, emotional drama and lots and lots of food!!
My angel entered my life, leaving a tiny scar below my stomach and filled my heart with overwhelming love. The feeling of acceptance was instant, but the life altering moment was yet to sink in!!. It takes around two to three months to get into the new routine, where everything revolves around the little one.
After spending the first few sleep deprived nights, you will start to wonder if you will ever be able to sleep like you used to. The exhaustion sinks in soon after. For the first one month, the feeding pattern of the baby ranges from 45 minutes to 1 hour of feed, every two hours. So you are actually spending a major part of your day feeding the baby.
Running out of the bathroom mid shower to soothe the baby, getting dressed in under 5 minutes, finishing your meals in under 15 minutes, catching up on your favorite shows as a narrative from your husband or friends, shopping under 20 minutes and has become my new skill set.
When I first looked at my scars and stretch marks and didn't like it. I considered myself less attractive and used all kinds of oil to get rid of it. But hey, have you ever seen a tigress without her stripes? Also, has any man ever left the room at the sight of a naked woman? Not possible right? There is no need to get disheartened, embrace and appreciate the effort your body has made in making this gorgeous baby.
Hopefully, my experience and tips will help you in your journey to recovery.
PRO TIP:
TO COMBAT STRESS:
BODY PAINS:
Initially you will experience back pain, arm pain, shoulder pain, and severe cramping. I had severe cramps very time I Pee and the pain was unbearable. It subsided after a week and then vanished.
For the arm and wrist pain, I advise using a "FEEDING PILLOW", the baby will rest in a comfortable position and you don't have to hold it's neck, you can just support with your arm initially till you get comfortable. I did the same.
For the back pain, whenever I nap. I usually use a electric heating pad under my back and rest for 15 minutes.
Make yourself comfortable using a feeding pillow, a good back rest, have snacks and water bottle handy before every feed.
POSITIVE RE-ENFORCEMENT:
There are multiple times during the beginning of motherhood, when you feel depressed. I would feel lonely at night and was depressed , trying to feed and put the baby to sleep while being sleep deprived. That was the most difficult experience. After a few days, I started calling relatives and friends who live in different time zones, as I needed to talk to someone at 2 am, or 4 am, and I didn't want to wake my husband as he had to work the next morning.
Always, remember it's just a passing Phase and it will get better with time. Sharing your feelings with someone you are most comfortable with helps. Also have other people in your family involved in giving burps, or rocking the baby to sleep while you rest. Positive thoughts and listening to soft music will help you relax and release oxytocin, which is an essential Hormone is producing breast milk.
I would take a long hot shower, while my baby is asleep , go for morning walks with my infant, have nutritious food and do give time to yourself. I got myself some new maternity clothes and feeding gowns, so the thought of trying on something new in the morning, irrespective of the fact that the my day would be endless and tiresome, I would feel enthusiastic and happy.
The little joys of getting a massage done, being pampered by your husband and family, makes it all worthwhile.
My daughter would smile in between feeds or after she is done, and that would be just enough motivation to sit for another session again!!
Show yourself all the love you can at any chance you get. I took an online language course as I am on my maternity leave, did a bit of painting, started writing blogs in my free time. Started exercising by looking at online you tube videos after 3 months, to tone my post partum body.
For all the beautiful and strong mothers out there, always remember, there is one person in the World who will love you unconditionally and has already forgiven you for the last time you forgot to check on them, that little star is right in your arms.!!
P.S: I didn't have a doula or nanny for my daughter. "If somebody is going to screw my daughter up, it better be me"
{For the stretch marks, try Forest essentials stretch marks oil. For me the redness has reduced and marks have lightened}
Disclaimer: The content and the photographs are protected by the Copyright Act.
Welcome to my blog, and hope you are having a great day!!
Motherhood is fascinating, exciting, enjoyable and lovable, etc. is all I have heard from my friends and family , when I was expecting. No one ever prepares you for sleep deprivation, trauma, body image issues, self doubt and the tiresome feeling along with constant peer pressure that follows soon after delivery.
My journey was a mix of happy moments, some swollen eyes, leaky breasts, cute baby smiles, diaper woes, grandma underwear, glowing skin, emotional drama and lots and lots of food!!
My angel entered my life, leaving a tiny scar below my stomach and filled my heart with overwhelming love. The feeling of acceptance was instant, but the life altering moment was yet to sink in!!. It takes around two to three months to get into the new routine, where everything revolves around the little one.
After spending the first few sleep deprived nights, you will start to wonder if you will ever be able to sleep like you used to. The exhaustion sinks in soon after. For the first one month, the feeding pattern of the baby ranges from 45 minutes to 1 hour of feed, every two hours. So you are actually spending a major part of your day feeding the baby.
Running out of the bathroom mid shower to soothe the baby, getting dressed in under 5 minutes, finishing your meals in under 15 minutes, catching up on your favorite shows as a narrative from your husband or friends, shopping under 20 minutes and has become my new skill set.
When I first looked at my scars and stretch marks and didn't like it. I considered myself less attractive and used all kinds of oil to get rid of it. But hey, have you ever seen a tigress without her stripes? Also, has any man ever left the room at the sight of a naked woman? Not possible right? There is no need to get disheartened, embrace and appreciate the effort your body has made in making this gorgeous baby.
Hopefully, my experience and tips will help you in your journey to recovery.
PRO TIP:
TO COMBAT STRESS:
- During the day, while everyone around you is continuing their normal routine, you might feel lonely and feeding all alone for hours is not easy. Initially, I would chat with my family members while feeding, and then I started reading fiction on KINDLE. I read a lot of David Baldacci, Jeffrey Archer and Paulo Coelho books. My daughter is 4 months old now and my current Novel is False Impressions by Jeffrey Archer.
- Reading books will not cause any changes in your vision, it is usually on account of Vitamin A deficiency. Do eat lots of kiwi, carrots and also consult your Doctor for Vitamin A supplements if you feel the need.
BODY PAINS:
Initially you will experience back pain, arm pain, shoulder pain, and severe cramping. I had severe cramps very time I Pee and the pain was unbearable. It subsided after a week and then vanished.
For the arm and wrist pain, I advise using a "FEEDING PILLOW", the baby will rest in a comfortable position and you don't have to hold it's neck, you can just support with your arm initially till you get comfortable. I did the same.
For the back pain, whenever I nap. I usually use a electric heating pad under my back and rest for 15 minutes.
Make yourself comfortable using a feeding pillow, a good back rest, have snacks and water bottle handy before every feed.
POSITIVE RE-ENFORCEMENT:
There are multiple times during the beginning of motherhood, when you feel depressed. I would feel lonely at night and was depressed , trying to feed and put the baby to sleep while being sleep deprived. That was the most difficult experience. After a few days, I started calling relatives and friends who live in different time zones, as I needed to talk to someone at 2 am, or 4 am, and I didn't want to wake my husband as he had to work the next morning.
Always, remember it's just a passing Phase and it will get better with time. Sharing your feelings with someone you are most comfortable with helps. Also have other people in your family involved in giving burps, or rocking the baby to sleep while you rest. Positive thoughts and listening to soft music will help you relax and release oxytocin, which is an essential Hormone is producing breast milk.
I would take a long hot shower, while my baby is asleep , go for morning walks with my infant, have nutritious food and do give time to yourself. I got myself some new maternity clothes and feeding gowns, so the thought of trying on something new in the morning, irrespective of the fact that the my day would be endless and tiresome, I would feel enthusiastic and happy.
The little joys of getting a massage done, being pampered by your husband and family, makes it all worthwhile.
My daughter would smile in between feeds or after she is done, and that would be just enough motivation to sit for another session again!!
Show yourself all the love you can at any chance you get. I took an online language course as I am on my maternity leave, did a bit of painting, started writing blogs in my free time. Started exercising by looking at online you tube videos after 3 months, to tone my post partum body.
For all the beautiful and strong mothers out there, always remember, there is one person in the World who will love you unconditionally and has already forgiven you for the last time you forgot to check on them, that little star is right in your arms.!!
P.S: I didn't have a doula or nanny for my daughter. "If somebody is going to screw my daughter up, it better be me"
{For the stretch marks, try Forest essentials stretch marks oil. For me the redness has reduced and marks have lightened}
Disclaimer: The content and the photographs are protected by the Copyright Act.
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